Sancken and I immediatily had a connection because of my specific situation in helping another couple have a baby! I am a surrogate and it was a life changing experience for myself and I believe everyone that was a part of my life.
My husband was very unsure if we needed someone else to play a part in this journey and I wouldn't let him say "no" because of his ever so busy work schedule. So Sancken automatically became a part of the plan and good thing she did because he ended up working a night shift and she was there to help me through my labor.
She was my #1 person and I wouldn't have anyother Doula but her, she is caring, attentive, loving, proactive in your care and above all a #1 overachiever! Her kind touch just melts you in so many ways that it was amazing. She helped her new parents get to their baby and once they were with her she came back to my side. She has laughed with me, hugged with me and even cried with me. Her generosity of her time and patience and knowlege is astounding.
I honestly can say having Sancken in my life has changed it forever, if you are looking for your "PERSON" she may just be a click away... all I know is that I have made a friend for life through this journey of birth. A miracle of it's own and having such a caring person involved with it makes it that more magical!
Thank you Sancken... Love Ya mama 🙂
My labor was stop and start for 2 weeks and my labor began in earnest the night before my doula left town! Sancken was our backup doula since we'd met and had repoire. She was so supportive of my labor. I'm a quiet laborer; my first doula didn't believe I was seriously in labor when we spoke. I think that my inner anxiety at not having her there to help stalled my labor. She had encouraged me to moan low, but alone I found controlled breathing worked best for me. Sancken recognized this immediately upon speaking to me on the phone and encouraged me to labor in tune with my body. She took nothing personal, read our birth plan and listened to what I told the docs earlier and advocated later on when I couldn't. She didn't time contractions and relied on her internal clock, which I found inaccurate when I timed them, but was helpful in that she was paying more attention to me and my needs than timing contractions.
I had back pains with each contraction and I couldn't have made it through without her. She chose her words carefully so as to never provoke anxiety and has a no nonsense aproach. She reminded me of options and that sometimes you have to compromise on a few points for the overall wellbeing of you and your baby to get most of what you want from your birth.
I think we could have used more advocacy for our baby in the immediate postbirth experience, but we didn't realize this at the time. Overall she was excellent, and I think the deficiencies we experienced were because she was our backup: She wasn't familiar with our particular situation and desires and she and my husband didn't have the repoire he had with our 1st doula; she hadn't met with us enough ahead of time. She wasn't prepared with much besides herself as she had been called in last minute to help us.
I'd like to think I provided Sancken with a good learning experience to build on her already strong doula skillset. I was a mama who would have loved an all natural home birth. Instead, I became a scheduled C section around wk 30 due to placenta previa. In wk 32, I wound up in the hospital with bleeding from the placenta previa & learned I also had vasa previa which kept me in the hospital on bed rest for 12 days before I wound up having an emergency C section in the middle of the night due to more bleeding. During my hospital stay, Sancken called or visited me every day. She talked through all of my angst about the medical intervention I was dealing with on a daily basis & helped me come to terms with this much different plan I had to follow to bring my son into the world than I had hoped for. She was probably the most sympathetic person in my life to my despair over not experiencing labor and having my son on my terms.
When my beautiful boy was delivered, Sancken was by my side despite very short notice at 2am. My husband left the O/R with our son & she stayed with me through my recovery. She helped me come off anesthesia & the other meds as I had a more extreme reaction than I expected. My pregnancy & son's birth was a journey I did not imagine I would experience and I don't know how I would've gotten through it without Sancken.
She is caring, open and willing to do what she needs to do to help the family and baby! Having a Doula created a peace of mind for us as first time parents. She truly helps connect dads in this experience.
She is an excellent Doula and I would highly recommend her to any one expecting a baby!
lucy and matt mermagen
When my first daughter was born, I was happy and full of positive emotion that comes with being a new mom. However we had experienced so many life changes, I was tired, my nipples hurt, I was bleeding for weeks, I felt resentful towards my husband because "I was doing all the work". I didn't realize it at the time, while I was going through the motions...but looking back, I was experiencing postpartum depression, for sure. It may have been minor, but it was real.
When I first met Sancken, I was pregnant with baby #2. I was on the massage table I was asked "what I was planning on doing with my placenta?" I can't lie, the question threw me for a loop. I was a natural birth-er, i thought I had read most of the books and knew all the natural ways to care for yourself during pregnancy, birth and beyond. As she explained to me the encapsulation process...I was so sure I wouldn't be able to stomach it (no pun intended). After leaving, I couldn't stop thinking about what she told me and the benefits that come with ingesting your placenta. I researched for a week online, called my hospital, and looked to myself for the answer that I already knew.
My thinking was: I knew what I felt like after my first baby, maybe I should try it to see if I notice a difference with the second? I decided to go for it.
Sancken arrived at the hospital the day Norah was born. My placenta had been in the cooler on ice. She picked it up and told me that it would be ready in about 3 days, she would deliver it to my home. I started ingesting my placenta pills as soon as they arrived. I followed her instruction on the amount to take.
I am not sure if it was psycho somatic or what, but I noticed a difference almost immediately. Right after I took my pills, I had an elevation of energy and mood. My skin was so clear and glowing while I was on my pills. I had so many compliments on how pretty my skin looked!
After a few weeks, I stopped taking my pills and my husband nicely asked me to start taking them again...he noticed that when I wasn't taking them I started to get cranky! I know that no two pregnancy's, births, postpartum periods, and children are the same...but I can say with confidence that I did not experience any postpartum depression symptoms with my second child. I had so much more energy and was delighted to care for my newborn, myself and the rest of my family. I feel that this was directly correlated to my placenta pills! I just started to get my period again, and I am glad that I have some leftover pills, because I plan on taking them if I am feeling very sluggish or PMS-y.
I tell all my pregnant friends to encapsulate their placenta, and share my story with them, even if they look at me like I am a crazy lady! 🙂
This was a special experience for me since i have been friends with Mallory since we were in grade school. Mallory was so comforting and gentle with the way she explained information and went over things. She also was very adamant about getting things to me such as my birth plan and was sure to ask if i had any questions. At the time of birth I remember her holding my hand and feeling her love transpire.She was a jem.
Sancken was also a great for me in this very special time. She has so much knowledge and experience in this practice. It was very reassuring to have her there for me, if i had questions or just needed to get grounded when i felt like things weren't working in my favor. She kept reminding me that all was going to be fine and at the end i would have the best gift in my life. At the time of birth she was very good at trying to get me in the most comfortable position and making sure my needs were met. She was amazing and i'm so happy i was able to have these two lovely ladies alongside me to conquer my start to motherhood!